All About Love And Friendship,

Relationship And Marriage

By

The Man Who Saw God Face To Face

Raphael Okechukwu Nweze

About Love And Friendship

I wrote this book after seeing the problems and frustrations which many people suffer in marriage, even when the sufferings are unnecessary and avoidable. I discovered that many parents are marriage illiterate, even when and after they have begotten children. I decided to write this book as a guide to both parents and newly married, as well as a guide to the youths, especially ladies and gentlemen, who shall in future become married.

Also, I have written this publication because of several questions that girls are asking about love, friendship, sex and marriage. They ask these questions, when they come for consultation and counselling. In addition, this writing is intended to offer some solutions to the problems that people have in marriage.

For Lack Of Knowledge

As God said in the holy book, people perish for lack of knowledge. Likewise, people suffer so many problems and challenges, not because the problems and challenges are there, but because people do not know what to do or the right step to take.

I also discovered that teenagers, youths, ladies and gentlemen, are often told lies about love, friendship, sex and romance.

It seems that the set of people, who suffer all the problems worst, are the religious ones, who desire to serve and worship God in truth and in spirit. This group is the worst hit, because they shy away from love, avoid friendship, shun romance and hate sex.

Consequences

As a result, many do not enjoy their married life, as they should.

What is more remarkable is the fact that many of those who suffer these things do not even know that they are suffering such wretchedness, physically and spiritually. It is like giving somebody a packet of sugar or vessels of milk and honey, without the person knowing how to use the precious gifts, and he does not even know that he should consult those who know.

Generally, it is as if living a Godly life is like living inside a cage, accepting all kinds of hardship and sufferings, just because a person has decided to serve and worship God in spirit and truth.

God’s Desires

It is good to mention here and now that God desires your greatest joy and satisfaction. That is one of the reasons why God made love, friendship, companionship, sex and marriage possible and real.

Always remember that the following are very important to God:

1. Your joyfulness and gladness of heart.

2. Your satisfaction.

3. Your pleasure.

4. Your right to knowledge.

5. Your successful and happily married life.

6. Your relief from boredom and monotony.

That is why He made friendship, love and romance possible, in order to multiply your joyfulness and gladness.

The absence of the above benefits leads to dullness, lack of excitements and loneliness. The same dullness today affects prayers and worship, because people do not rejoice enough, with each other, in the presence of God. They do not associate and work together as friends, and as children of the same God.

Purpose Of Marriage Course

The purpose of family and marriage course are:

1. Not to frighten the youths and children about love, friendship and interpersonal association.

2. Not to suspect people.

3. But to enlighten, guide and advise the youths and children, especially the young men and ladies, who are due for married life.

4. Encourage the youths and children to work together.

5. Make them feel free to associate.

6. Allow them to pray and worship God together.

7. At the same time, ensure that they abide by all the rites of holiness.

Age Brackets

The young ones shall be categorized into the following groups:

1. Babies.

2. Little Children

3. Children.

4. Teenagers.

5. Young men and ladies.

The Babies

They are the babies in the arms, who often are carried about and sit on the laps of people.

Little Children

They are the babies that have started to walk about freely, without being aided. Their age ranges from 1 year to 6 years.

Children

They are the older set of children, of about 7 to 12 years.

Teenagers

Generally, all those whose ages are below forty (40) years are regarded as youths. However, in this categorization, the teenagers are youths that are from 13 to 19 years old.

Young Men And Ladies

They are youths of 20 to 40 years, who are qualified but may or may not be ready for marriage yet.

Discipline And Home Training

To The Babies, Little Children And Children

If any of these children commit sin,

1. You have to give correction.

2. If he repeats the offence, you warn the person.

3. And if he repeats the same offence for the third time, you have to flog or penalize the person, if necessary.

To The Teenagers

You have to teach the teenagers the following:

1. The dangers of pre-marital sex.

2. The dangers of sex outside marriage.

3. The rites of holiness.

4. The role of youths in the house, society and church.

To The Young Men And Ladies

You have to teach the young men and ladies the following:

1. The roles of young men and women in the society and church.

2. The roles of parents.

3. Relationship and rights of the family members.

4. Qualifications for marriage.

5. The type of marriage approved by God.

6. The processes involved in marriage and their procedures.

7. The materials for contracting marriage.

8. The causes of infertility and their solutions.

9. Family problems, crisis management and peaceful settlement.

10. Pregnancy, related matters, problems and solutions.

11. Preparations and processes of child delivery.

12. Child care problems and solutions.

13. Child health and nutrition.

14. Rites of holiness in everyday life and relationship.

15. Rites of holiness in marriage.

Is Friendship Allowed?

I have heard several ministers of God teaching and preaching that, if you want to win in the race of salvation, that that you must have nobody as your friend. Many followers believe this and stick to it, by shunning all others, at least, by not becoming friendly with others. This teaching is false and misleading.

The fact is this. Your friends and loved ones, here on earth, become your friends and loved ones even so in heaven. Besides, you are advised to multiply the number of your friends by being kind to others. That is why Jesus said, “Love your neighbour as yourself.”

The Ugly Situation

Unfortunately, many people are living as if there is no friendship at all or as if companionship is not necessary. That is why so many married couples are living in singles, working in singles, each separated from the partner, whereas God made it possible for them to live together, stay together, eat together, pray together and sleep together, for there is great happiness in living with a loved one. And love is the cream and essence of life.

During Prayers And Worship

Even in the house of God, the same problem obtains, because people do not rejoice enough. They do not celebrate in the presence of God. Many tend to stay alone and to keep away from the others, especially from the opposite sex. In their multitudes, in the presence of God, they stand like lonely trees that make the forest. Each is focused on God to the neglect of others.

Celebration means dining and wining with others, rejoicing with them, singing with them, clapping with them, laughing with them, dancing with them, embracing them, giving them your gifts and accepting theirs, all in joyfulness and gladness of heart. All in the praise of God.

In The Wrong Ways

Due to general ignorance, the society is killing love, discouraging friendship and destroying sexual activities where necessary. Many parents frighten their children away from the opposite sex, when they should rather educate. Suspicion follows every association of two persons, especially if they are of opposite sex.

Therefore, young boys and girls do not befriend each other, even when they are very much in love and desire to be with each other. They avoid each other, because the society and church are always saying that fornication is a sin. It is as if everything about love and romance were a sin, and many who actually befriend each other do so in secret.

The situation has got so bad, to the extent that some youths get married without knowing what to do with their wives and the wives do not know what to do with their husbands.

What God Said

We should remember what God said in the holy book, that it is not good for a man to stay alone. A man needs assistance, just as a master needs servants to help him meet up with minor issues, and just as a leader needs some assistants to facilitate his work, by making his work easy, fast, productive and efficient.

A Place For Everything

The holy book tells us that there is time for everything. Similarly, there is a place for every activity.

While sex and romance must be avoided in the temples, holy places, and public places, the two are good and necessary in your houses and residences, if you are married.

Friendship is good enough for every two or more people, whether of the same gender or not, and whether the two are married or not. Moses lived happily with Zipporah for many years, before marrying her. Also, Jacob lived many years with Rachel before they got married. Therefore, it is good, if two people live together before marrying each other, for that is a good development. But, they must not engage in sexual immorality, while living together.

Encouragements

If two people are friends, make them three friends, by becoming their friends. This is pleasing to God the Father. But, if they are fornicating, avoid them, because fornication leads to hell fire.

Bear These In Mind

The following are not evil, because they are not fornication:

1. Being in love with somebody.

2. Living together with somebody you love.

3. Embracing one another.

4. Smiling at one another.

5. Greeting one another.

6. Waving at somebody you like or love.

7. Touching one another.

8. Staying alone with another person of opposite gender.

9. Having the feelings of sex, in and on your body, which feeling is natural. The word, natural, means that is how God made it.

10. Desire for friendship or love.

11. Desire for sex. Only that people should, by self-control, avoid sex, until they are married. For sexual immorality is the cause of spiritual downfall, making a person worthless and disgusting in sprit.

12. Wearing a romantic dress for your husband or wife. However, such dress up should be in the privacy of the two; it should not be in the public places, not on the roads, and they are not allowed in holy places.

Wrong Classification

Another major problem is that the society and church seem to classify everything about romance and sex as evil. They do this very often, knowingly or unknowingly, by frequently saying that fornication is a sin. When they say this, it is as if everything about love and sex is evil. This stigma makes the righteous and religious ones to shun love, discourage friendship and avoid sex, to the extent that, many remain unmarried, because they did not welcome a friendly hand, when their suitors or wives came around. Therefore, many spend the later part of their lives, regretting their youthhood, missed opportunities or past decisions.

In other words, many people have not married, because in their youthful period, they shunned love and romance, which made their would-be wives or husbands to avoid them, resulting in late marriage or no marriage at all. By the time, they realized that love in the form of marriage is both good and necessary, it was already too late for them to get married.

Misconception

A major misconception is the idea or feeling that everything about pornography is bad and evil. Pornography simply means everything that suggests sex and romance, especially if inspired by the evil spirits and demons.

While those who are venturous, daring or disobedient tend to watch pornographic videos and pictures, the religious ones avoid everything pornography.

Investigation

In my search for solutions to all kinds of marital problems, which problems seem to abound, I browsed the Internet, Facebook and Youtube. I discovered that not all things that are tagged pornography are bad indeed, especially for the married ones.

Very Important Points

Yes:

It is right to teach and preach that fornication is a sin.

But, parents and church fail to tell the youths, ladies and gentlemen, that romance is very good in marriage. By the time the youths discover this things by themselves, they feel that their parents and the adults are uncivilized misfits.

It is good not to wear indecent dresses in public. The same is not good for the temples and holy places. But, romantic dress up is very important in the bedroom for married couple.

The failure to make this fact clear to the youths has caused many marriage problems, because many couples live as marriage illiterates. They are always doing the things that kill their love and romance, instead of avoiding such things.

Evidences

Married persons, men and ladies, come to counseling, to tell you that there is no happiness in their marriage. No love and no romance. They are just living as lonely trees that make a forest.

In a worst case, the mother-in-law had to enlighten the couple, after several years of infertility, because the couple did not know that they should sleep together to bear children.

Terms And Meanings

1. Fornication is any form of sexual immorality, by adultery.

2. Adultery is having sexual affairs with somebody not married to.

3. Note that love affair is good, provided that it does not involve sexual immorality.

4. A married person may still love another person that is not the wife or husband. However, such love affairs must not disturb or intrude into married life.

5. Sex between married couple is not a sin and it is not a shameful thing.

Duty

I also discovered that many parents are always rebuking their daughters against boyfriends. They make the girls shun love, discourage friendship and condemn sex. That is totally wrong. Many of such girls grow up and get married without knowing the things that hey should know about love, romance and sex. It is only the daring ones, the venturous, that by personal efforts or chance, get to know before marriage.

By counselling, after wedding, some religious ladies have been made to understand that sex is both good and necessary for child bearing.

It is the duty of the parents to teach their grown up children about love, sex and marriage. This teaching is both good and necessary for the youths, ladies and gentlemen, who have attained the age of maturity.

Contradictions

For instance, consider a girl, who is twenty years of age. The parents are always policing her about, always telling her that love and friendship is bad. The mother is always cautioning her against sex, instilling the fear of sex into the daughter. The parents do all these things to prevent pre-marital pregnancy.

And, after twenty years of persistently turning the daughter’s heart against friendship, love and sex, the same parents ask the daughter to marry. Well, the parents have already done the damage, because it will take many years to change the mental set of the girl and ease her mind.

Right Step

Once a girl gets to the age of eighteen, the mother should be teaching the girl about marriage, the causes of female infertility and their solutions, the causes of male infertility and their solutions, how to live a romantic live with the husband, how to turn the husband on, the types of food necessary and the right time to cook each food.

Equally necessary are the different types of fruits and herbs and their uses, including those fruits and herbs that boost love, romance, fertility and spiritual growth.

Of course, the teaching must stipulate that sex outside marriage is evil and that pre-marital sex is not allowed.

Case Studies

It is necessary here to present two case studies, which will help to guide married people on how to live a successful marriage life.

Bad Case

In the worst case, the couple work from morning till night.

Most of the time, they are separate from each other.

In the evening, they come back to their house.

At night, they eat their food and say their prayers.

The next thing, they switch off the lights and sleep, without knowing that darkness kills love, weakens sexual drive and destroys romance.

In their lonely times, they are busy talking about other people, even while in bed. By so doing, they divert their attention to other people and things, and forget to appreciate each other.

By so doing, they live a very poor and bad married life.

They neither eat the foods that boost fertility nor do they live a romantic life. They were living more like the stones inside the water, each separate from the other, without enjoying themselves and without enjoying each other. Just like one girl said during consultation and counselling, “I stay lonely most of the times, and I do not enjoy this marriage.”

Good Case

1. In another case of enlightened couple, they do not exert all their energies in working.

2. They spend time in working together or in staying together.

3. They come home in the evening, bringing such fruits and drinks that make them happy.

4. To them, each night is a celebration.

5. They eat together, pray together and sleep together.

6. While they sleep, they keep the lights on or make the lights dim.

7. They spend time talking with each other, before sleep zooms them off into self-forgetfulness.

8. Also, they spent time to look into each other’s eyes, to talk and to associate, from touching, to romance and foreplay.

9. Before or after, they eat such fruits like banana, cashew nuts and water melon.

10. Next, they share and drink wine or other nutritious drinks, which make them happy and active, before they forget each other by sleeping off.

11. Before they know it, the night is far spent in sound sleep and restfulness.

12. They wake up in the morning, feeling refreshed and free.

13. Before they know it, the night is far spent in sound sleep and restfulness.

14. They wake up in the morning, feeling refreshed and free.

Necessary Films, Videos And Pictures

Some pornographic films, videos and pictures are good for married couple. Such as:

1. How to touch a woman.

2. How to go down on a woman.

3. Different types of positions suited for sex.

4. How to turn on your wife or husband.

5. Etc.

Intending couples should watch such films and videos, because they have a lot to learn from the displays. This will make them avoid being marriage-illiterate, just like their parents and grandparents were. That is why I advise newly married couples to search, browse and watch such films and videos, which may seem to be pornography but are not pornography.

In all, remember that romance and sex must be discouraged among the children and youths, until they are ready and mature for marriage. Even wedding pictures and marriage banners must not be romantic or sexy.

Besides, avoid kissing your wife or husband inside the churches, ministries and fellowships. Many pastors encourage it, without knowing that they are breaking the laws of holiness and provoking the wrath of God.

Warning

In the course of my research, I also discovered that the amount of pornographic contents and displays on the Internet, social networks and YouTube, are truly overwhelming, alarming and dangerous. So many things on display should not be there in the first place. And so many news men and journalists shall end up inside the hell fire, because of illicit publications, just as most of their dead counterparts are already burning inside the fiery chambers of hell.

It is saddening to note that people are breaking the laws of privacy, and they are breaking the bounds of relevance. The fact that you are a journalist or that you have a phone does not authorize you to publish private affairs anytime, anywhere and anyhow. Be warned, because the spiritual consequences are terrible and unavoidable.

Even the angels of prophecy and vision do not reveal personal and private matters, to another person, unless such is absolutely needed to save souls and guide humanity. Be warned!

The Path Of Love And Sincerity

Spiritual separation between two or more people is caused by harsh words, unkind words, ingenerous attitude, cold indifference, hatred, enmity, denial, hypocrisy, etc

All these causes manifest in such forms as no time to listen, to hear, to admit and to adjust; no communication, no responses, no interactions, no correction, no signs of love; and general lack of concern ; as if others do not exist and do not matter.

Mothers And Daughters

1. You two should be best friends.

2. Every time is not for rebuke.

3. Educate the youths and grown us about marriage problems and solutions.

4. Educate them, about family life.

5. Teach them the causes and solutions to male infertility.

6. Teach them the causes and solutions to female infertility.

7. Use events as case studies.

8. Abortion – meaning and consequences.

9. How to associate with opposite sexes, the things to avoid.

10. Avoid distresses and distractions - mkpakasi aka n’aru

The Truth About Boy Friends And Girl Friends

1. Currently
1. Today, in the society, you hear so many stories about boyfriends and girlfriends. Often, you watch videos of people kissing and romancing in privacy or in public.

2. Also, people now talk about their ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends, as if humanity are free to do whatever they like.

3. On the social networks, there are so many videos online teaching about sex and romance, as well as those videos encouraging people to engage in all forms of sexual immorality. What is even more disappointing is that these videos are being watched by the children and youths, who are not yet ready and mature for marriage.

4. More disturbing are the videos of girls, ladies and women who are either advertising their sexual appetites or announcing that they are starved of sex, doing so without shame and without minding the consequences.

5. Just recently and unexpectedly, I saw a video of many children dancing sexy music styles of the hottest order. They were in pairs, each pair being a little boy and girl. They were either school children, because they were wearing school uniform or they were having birthday party.

6. In most of the home videos, sex and romance are involved, to the extents that children and youths, who are not yet ready and mature for marriage, are being exposed to sexual immorality.

The Truth
Here are the spiritual truth about boyfriends and girlfriends, including sugar daddies, sugar mummies, sweet sixteens and boy o oyoos.

1. You are free to have friends, irrespective of their age or gender.

2. But, such friendship must not involve sex.

3. The moment a boy or girl friend engage in sex or mouth-to-mouth kissing, the two persons involved are already married in spirit. This is a fact that a human being cannot deny before God, because the daylight you see every day is God’s video camera recording whatever you do, from day to day. The same record is televised and safe kept in heaven, whether you know it or not.

4. That is why God said in the bible that if a male rapes a female, the male, whether boy or man, must marry the female.

5. That is also why acting sex or pornography in the films and movies is a sin. In spirit, both words and thoughts are the same thing as actions, because a spirit does things only by thinking, by speaking, by intention and attention.

6. In heaven, marriage is concluded between two persons the moment they promise to marry each other. Whether the promise is written or not, and whether you have witness or not, is irrelevant.

7. Coming back to say that you did not mean it, that your father or mother did not approve, or whatever reasons you may have, is not even allowed.

8. Majority of humanity, as well as majority of the ministers of God and women in the ministry, do not know that kissing inside the church and holy places, by couples during wedding, is evil and abomination. See Exodus 19, which partly reads:

And God said unto Moses, Go unto the people, and sanctify them today and tomorrow, and let them wash their garments, and be ready on the third day; for the third day God will come down in the sight of all the people upon mount Sinai. And thou shalt set bounds unto the people round about, saying, Take heed to yourselves, that you do not go up into the mountain, or touch the border of it: whosoever touches the mountain shall be surely put to death: no hand shall touch him, but he shall surely be stoned, or shot through; whether it be beast or man, he shall not live: when the trumpet sounds long, they shall come up to the mountain. And Moses went down from the mount to the people, and sanctified the people; and they washed their garments. And he said unto the people, Be ready against the third day: do not go near a woman (do not have sex within the days you meet with God, and no sexual and romantic activities inside the temple and holy places). Exodus 19:10-15

Another bad example is found in the book of Samuel, saying,
Now Eli was very old; and he heard all that his sons did unto all Israel, and how that they lay with the women that did service at the door of the tent of meeting. And he said unto them, Why do you such things? For I hear of your evil dealings from all these people. Nay, my sons; for it is no good report that I hear: you make God’s people to transgress. If one man sin against another, God shall judge him; but if a man sin against God, who shall entreat for him? Notwithstanding, they hearkened not unto the voice of their father, because God was determined to slay them. 1 Samuel 2:22-25

9. Sex and romance are completely a private matter, for married couples only. And both should not be made public.

11. That is why pornographic displays, videos and pictures are violations of the laws of morality, decency, spirituality and holiness, with grievous consequences in spirit.

12. Spiritually, any person who does not maintain decency is not allowed to progress to higher levels of spiritual developments. Instead, he falls down the spiritual ladder, to become a nonentity, and eventually devalued spiritually - worthless.

13. The same fact applies to any person who does not, and cannot, maintain necessary secrets.

14. Intending couple may live and work together before their marriage, just like Moses and Zipporah or Jacob and Rachel, but they are not allowed to engage in sex before their marriage is finalized. This is a spiritual law which so many boys and girls, as well as young men and women, are violating nowadays.

15. Many videos are now online encouraging unmarried ladies and women to get pregnant. This is against the laws of nature and spirituality, because such practice will lead to uncontrolled mixing of the human blood and genetics, leading to devaluation of human race and their evenfall eradication from existence.

16. From time to time, nature performs a house cleansing operation to remove all that are fake or undervalue. That was exactly what happened, when the generations of Noah were wiped out by the great flood. The same thing happened when the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed by fire and brimstone. One of the reasons why God wiped them out was because of their sexual immorality.

First Conclusions

1. Pre-marital sex and sex outside marriage are not allowed, spiritually.

2. Adults must find ways to shield the children and youths from videos on sex and romance, until such children and youths are ready and mature for marriage.

3. Self-control and abstinence, by those who are not married, and outside marriage, are both good and necessary.

Love

Love is an emotional force, which seeks expressions, and it is capable of expressing itself.

Permissible Acts Of Love And Friendship

People are free to engage in minor acts of love. All the same, much depends on the time, duration and extents.

1. Touching.

2. Making contact.

3. Hugging.

4. Massaging.

5. Minor cuddling, like sitting together in a seat of a car or buses, sitting in a pew inside the church. Very intimate cuddling is reserved for respective couples alone, and that should be at their house, not in public places.

6. External kissing. But, deep oral kissing, like mouth to mouth, should be reserved for respective couples only.

7. Rendering help to the needy or poor people.

8. Smiling at each other.

9. Sitting close to one another.

10. Going together to a place, like school, market, occasion, etc.

11. Etc.

Bad Effects Of Loneliness

Sometime, people think the best way to prevent sexual immorality is by keeping the males separate from the females. This measure is like a sharp two-edge sword, because of the following bad effects of loneliness, which should be prevented. They are:

1. Loneliness.

2. Monotony.

3. Anger.

4. Confusion.

5. Depression.

6. Narrow mindedness.

7. Coldness – a person may become withdrawn from others or begin to shy away from public.

8. Communication gap.

9. Loss of vital information – lack of access to very important information, by not associating with others.

10. Sadness.

11. Regrets.

Being A Victorious Soldier

In this presentation, I want to teach humanity, what it means to be a victorious soldier.

For example, for a person to win the war against fornication, the males do not necessarily need to avoid the females and the females do not have to be avoiding the males. In heaven, you shall still be meeting both the males and the females.

To be counted a victorious soldier, you should be able to relate and associate with the opposite sex without committing adultery or fornication. That means that you shall live with them, work with them, move with them, converse with them, plan with them, pray with them and worship with them. You should assist them when they are in trouble, and defend them where they are helpless. It is only after you have being able to do all these that you shall be counted a victorious soldier, and not by avoiding them.

All the same, when you notice that somebody is ready and willing to put you in trouble or temptation, you should and must avoid such a person.

Suggestive Conducts

Suggestive conducts are those behaviours that people exhibit before others, which suggests to others to do something or makes others feel that you are ready and willing for something. Therefore, sexually suggestive conducts are those body language of a female which make a male to think that the female is ready and willing for sex. In other words, the male may quickly jump into sex or romance, even without asking for it.

The aim of mentioning the suggestive conducts is for you to know how to conduct yourself in both public and private environments, without arousing others to assault you sexually, whether you are a male or female. Many people, sometime, exhibit sexually suggestive behaviours without knowing it. The suggestive conducts include the following:

1. Sitting very close to others of opposite sex.

2. Lying down face-up in front of a male and very close to him. This is a very strong prompting.

3. Spreading the hands and the legs.

4. Allowing the inner wears to be seen. Seeing the inner wear of a female, by the male, is a very strong magnetic force on the male, which instantly makes them to be sexually active and ready to do it.

5. Spiritual and magnetic forces, especially when two person of opposite sexes are alone.

6. The way girls cry or complain, in a weak but alluring tones.

7. Climbing into the beds.

8. The way a girl keeps or spreads herself in the bed.

9. Wearing minis, bon shots, skimpy dresses or daring clothes, that expose the attractive parts of the body.

10. Leaving the children alone in the house, with other bad children who corrupt the good ones.

11. Evil spirits and demons come in to possess, manipulate and use the children, when parents and guardians are away to money-making ventures, businesses or other things.

12. Inexperience of possible abuses, like thrusting oneself into the hands of others, in a warm and friendly embrace without the intention of love-making.

13. Allowing others to go on with uninvited caresses, robbing or massages.

14. Following trusted relations into hidden places or privacy.

15. Not knowing the implications of what they do.

16. What happens behind the scenes?

17. What happens behind the walls?

18. What happens inside the rooms and houses?

19. Exposure to romantic and pornographic films and videos.

20. The use of seductive or romantic perfumes, even without knowing it. One girl was fond of spraying a type of perfume. I told her to stop using the perfume, but she would obey. Until, I explained to her that the perfume was made to arouse couples into sexual activities. That was when she stopped using the perfume.

21. Playful acts that are romantic or that can easily lead to romance, even without knowing it. For example, a girl placing her face very close to the face of a male or under the face of a male.

Where Relevant

Usually, the church and society warn the child and youths against all the suggestive conducts, in order to prevent pre-marital sex and teenage pregnancy. The next problem is that the church and society never tells the female to do these things for their respective husbands or the husband to romance their wives. This is why so many newly married couples, and even our parents and grandparents, are still marriage-illiterates.

Warning

The fact that videos and pictures of romance and sex are available and accessible on the social networks does not mean that any person is allowed to engage in sexual immorality. Even those actors and comedians who making and posting such films and videos are not free form guilt, if they fail to restrict such productions to married people only. The greatest sin is the sin committed in public, because many others learn and practice the same, all to the credit, severe punishment, of the person who did it first. Be warned.

Enabling Factors

The following are factors that can make a girl to exhibit sexually suggestive behaviours towards the male, even without the girl knowing it:

1. Childhood fears.

2. Communication gap, between the girl and the parents.

3. Parental disappointments and maltreatments.

4. Failure to give attention to the needs and problems of the children.

5. Abuse of trust by guardians, into whose hands children are entrusted.

6. Absence of caretaker, by leaving the children at home without a caretaker. Since women stared doing all kinds of business outside the house, the Devil has taken over the families, through home videos and films, sowing the seeds of evils and abominations in the hearts and mind of the youths and children.

7. Untimely expositions to romantic and pornographic videos.

8. Unrestricted association with bad children.

9. Uncontrolled movements and inter-family visitations in the neighbourhood.

10. Peer pressure from age mates, class mates, colleagues, etc.

11. Lack of enabling environments, lack of protective environments.

12. Demonic possessions and manipulation, like in the case of Mary Magdalene, who was possessed by seven demons.

13. Extreme poverty, which leads to frequent begging and pleas. This provides opportunity for immoral men and women to misuse needy women, ladies and girls.